Bad Mum

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18 February 2018

The BIG is in the small. Remember it all.

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16 February 2018

What having a baby did to my marriage.


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8 February 2018

Know Your Social Media Apps For Your Kids


My belief is that, as parents, we need to embrace ALL of social media and by embrace I mean know about it and what it does. We don't have to use it, but it helps. I have acquaintances that dismiss social media as the devil and declare they want nothing to do with it. They are parents and I think this is neglect. You wouldn't send your child off to an unknown destination so why let them use an unknown app?
A number of parents with primary aged children contacted me, via Instagram, to ask if I would elaborate on the apps: their use, age limits and I thought I would add my own thoughts/comments on how my teens - or teens I know - are using the ones I am aware of. I hope it helps?
13+ is the suggested use of most Social Media Accounts, which ties in with the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act.  My descriptions may seem limited but if you google them yourself, you will find more elaborate details but the actual information provided by the sites is very clear on how it can be written/shared (I’m not willing to take a risk!)

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A host of parenting words amongst those to become part of the Oxford English Dictionary family

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7 February 2018

10 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR FERTILITY

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You Are Not Alone

Whether you are a first time Mother with a brand new baby or a Mother with young children, I want you to know that I understand how hard being a Mother can be.  Being a Mother can be the most satisfying feeling a woman has. It empowers women, but it can also be one of the most overwhelming feelings a woman has. To the Mother who is doing her absolute best yet still feels like she isn’t enough, I want you know that you are not alone. I understand you. I understand your feelings, your emotions, and your mindset.

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4 February 2018

Guilt of a Working Mother

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Ladies just play nice

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Diversify your village



People are always shocked to learn my best friends don't have kids. As if we're on some sort of opposite teams. Montague and Capulet style. It's not the case. We're most definitely on the same team. I've known these girls forever. When you have kids you lose a lot of friends. Nothing separates the wheat from the chaff like having a baby but these ladies have stood the test of time. Poor buggers!

It takes a village to raise a child but that village isn't exclusive to fellow parents. We need to stop overlooking people with no kids. It's too easy to assume they don't want to be involved in 'kid' stuff but how would we feel if our kidless ladies didn't include us in their lives? People often say people who don't have kids can't advise on kids and I totally disagree. Unsolicited advice is always bullshit but some of the best advice I've received was from my childless girls. Sometimes it's nice to get a view from a completely different perspective.

These 3 amazing girls take the time out their day to read my WhatsApps bitching about my kids, they have taken calls where I'm crying down the phone and the kids are screaming in the background while they're at work trying to get their own shit done. They supported me when I was on my own, through many ridiculous dating experiences and still continue to support me now that I'm married. They have their own lives with their own commitments but they always make time for me. They even keep me in the loop with current music etc. These girls keep me young! We're a team and it works!

They listen to me gush when the kids are exceptionally amazing and welcome all my biased Mum pics. They come to my kids parties because they want to. They've even organised some of them. It isn't put on. They love my kids and my kids love them. They're part of our family. They're the cool aunties who spoil them every Christmas and birthday with things I'd never dream of buying them. Thanks for that play doh Charis! They take precious time out their busy lives to spend quality time with my babies. In order to give me some peace. They even enjoy it. On days when they could be drinking cocktails willy nilly they do a child friendly lunch with me and my kids instead. That shit doesn't go unnoticed.

My husband loves them too which is a bonus. I had to marry him because he's the only man all 3 have agreed on. True story!

Mum friends are amazing and they can relate but it saddens me to see a sort of us and them with people who don't have kids. We mattered before we had kids and my girls matter. We will continue to exist once our kids fly the nest so I think we need to remember that we're more than just Mums. We're all people. Having kids isn't the only valid achievement in life. These ladies have careers and can pee whenever they like but never once have they looked down their noses at me for being the Mum who sits lusting over Mr Bloom with unwashed hair all week.

If my ladies ever do decide to go down the motherood
 path I'll be over the moon. I'll buy their kids noisy toys and teach them every nursery rhyme I know. I won't love them any more though, I couldn't if I tried.

It's easy for me to look at their lives and think it's easy for them. Truth is life is never easy. Everyone has their stumbling blocks and they're just as important as ours. All our problems and worries are relevant.

Build your village ladies. The more diverse it is the better. Let's not exclude anyone. We're the first to complain when places aren't child friendly so let's remember that. We're all friends.

Yvonne @champagneandsnottynoses x



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